Turning your trading around (part 2)
Part Two: Understanding Your Patterns
In the first
article in this series, we took a look at how the loss of perceived control
underlies most emotional problems. When we feel unable to influence the events
that matter in our lives, we experience psychological stress. If this state of
stress becomes chronic–if we cannot find effective means of coping and gaining
control over our life outcomes–the result is distress: anxiety, depression, and
frustration. Viewing ourselves through the lenses of stress and distress, it
often feels as though we have many more problems than we could ever possibly
solve. As we saw in the first article, however, it is generally the case that
what seems to be a multitude of problems is really a set of varied
manifestations of a single problem pattern. If we can identify and interrupt
this pattern, we have taken the first step toward reestablishing control over
our lives. In this second installment of the three-part series, we will examine
how to make sense of the patterns that can dominate our lives. This will set us
up for the third article, which will focus on strategies for changing problem
patterns in lasting ways.
Looking for the Themes
The mere recognition that you don’t have many
problems–just many manifestations of a single problem pattern–is in itself
relieving. It is much easier to change a single pattern than to make multiple
changes across a variety of situations. Most patterns are expressions of themes
that run through our lives, much like a theme might run through a novel or
symphony. Rarely does the pattern only show up in one facet of life, such as
trading. More often, it cuts across areas of life, which is why it has so many
manifestations and can leave us feeling like we’re bundles of problems.
Let’s take Jack, a talented young trader who has achieved
inconsistent results at his trading firm. Jack grew up as a rebellious teen in a
strict Eastern European household. He loves his parents and feels they love him,
but he resented their imposition of “old world” values. He resisted
their curfews when he was young and recalls with bitterness how they prevented
him from having friends when he was young. He later rebelled against their
desires that he attend school locally and marry a woman of the same faith and
national heritage. Instead, Jack went out of state to college and experienced a
varied social life. He experimented with drugs, missed many classes because of
fraternity partying, and disappointed his parents with mediocre grades. Jack
recalls many battles when he came home during vacations, as he and his father
went toe to toe over his “wild” behavior.
What brought Jack to my office initially was not his
trading, although that had taken a downturn. He was depressed following the
breakup of his first serious relationship. His girlfriend found out that he had
cheated on her, and she promptly broke up with him. When he tried to convince
her to give him another chance, she confronted him with evidence of multiple
cheatings and ended things for good. “I really screwed up, man,” Jack
explained to me. “I don’t know why I do those things. As soon as I have
something good, I screw it up. It’s like I’m trying to hurt myself.”
“What other ways do you
screw up the good things?”
I asked.
“You saw what
happened yesterday,” Jack raised his voice. “I was up in the morning, trading
well, and then I just went nuts in the afternoon. I broke every one of my rules
and ended up the day losing money. I don’t know how many times I pull that
garbage. Just when I think I’m trading well and doing all the right things, I
pull something like this. I have to be the world’s biggest screw up.”
The average person listening to Jack would conclude that he
has several problems: conflicts with his family, relationship problems, and lack
of discipline in his trading. Indeed, the sense that every important part of his
life is messed up is a big part of why Jack feels depressed. He feels out of
control, unable to stop himself from self destruction. In reality, however, he
has one pattern that shows up in several spheres of life: he experiences
expectations as limitations on his freedom and threats to his independence.
He saw his parents’ rules as punitive constraints, and he experienced commitment
in a relationship similarly. And his trading rules? At an emotional level, they
were no different from his parents’ rules–which is why he periodically rebelled
against them, to the detriment of his P/L.
Most themes, like Jack’s, begin during an earlier period of
life in which there was conflict. Indeed, the themes begin as attempted
solutions to those conflicts. Jack’s parents really did limit his freedom
during his growing up years, and his rebellion was his way of trying to find a
balance. Although it generated arguments at home, it worked for him: he made
friends, broke away from his small community, and gained experience with a
broader slice of life. The problem was that this strategy became over learned,
which made it automatic and patterned. His way of dealing with constraints at
home, through rebellious assertions of independence, became his way of dealing
with all constraints–even the ones that he knew were good for him, such as
monogamy in a serious relationship. What he knew and how he told himself he
should act–and what he experienced emotionally–were very different things. He
thinks he is screwing* up his life, but in fact he is simply repeating a pattern
that had worked for him in the past.
The problem is that he has outgrown that pattern. It
no longer brings him freedom.
Finding Your Themes
It is very difficult to change your patterns if you don’t know what they are.
Becoming aware of your patterns–and separating yourself from them–are
essential first steps in the change process. But it can also be difficult to
locate your themes when you are immersed in them. They occur so
automatically–and feel so much like parts of ourselves–that we’re generally
oblivious to their existence, much like a fish must have little awareness of
water.
One exercise I ask people to do is create a set of sine
waves on a blank sheet of paper. The waves have multiple peaks and valleys. I
then ask traders like Jack to write down on the peaks all the best experiences
of their lives. On the valleys are written the worst life experiences.
Afterward, as we look across the peaks and valleys, the themes jump out at us.
Jack felt best when he felt free, when he was doing his own thing. He felt worst
when he was tied down and after he unsuccessfully fought against the feeling of
being tied down.
If Jack were to create separate sine wave charts for his
family, relationship, and trading lives, the correlations would be enormous. The
same feelings, the same situations recur. And recur. And recur.
Many of the manifestations of a theme look different on the
surface, but they are united by the same feelings and similar behavior patterns.
Someone who grew up feeling inferior as a child now compares himself to other
traders and feels inadequate; a person who unsuccessfully tried everything to
please an alcoholic parent now finds herself overwhelmed by perfectionist
expectations that can’t be met in trading. So often, we have to look outside
trading to find the patterns that interfere with our trading.
Jack, I’m pleased to report, was able to extricate himself
from his pattern. It actually happened in a funny way. During one meeting, he
became convinced that the pattern was controlling him and he rebelled against
it! By pretending that his pattern was a set of tyrannical parents, he found it
easy to summon his motivation to not fall into the pattern. He followed his
trading rules, not because he learned to love rules, but because he saw trading
well as an exercise of choice and free will–and saw rule-breaking as a return
to the control of his past.
His first step of change, however, was to understand
himself and why he was doing what he was doing. He wasn’t self-defeating. He was
simply doing what he had (over)learned to do during a difficult developmental
period. Unlearning those patterns and developing new alternatives for action
will be the topic of the last article in this series.
Brett N. Steenbarger, Ph.D. is Associate Clinical
Professor of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at SUNY Upstate Medical
University in Syracuse, NY and author of The
Psychology of Trading (Wiley, 2003). As Director of Trader Development
for Kingstree Trading, LLC in Chicago, he has mentored numerous professional
traders and coordinated a training program for traders. An active trader of the
stock indexes, Brett utilizes statistically-based pattern recognition for
intraday trading. Brett does not offer commercial services to traders, but
maintains an archive of articles and a trading blog at www.brettsteenbarger.com
and a blog of market analytics at www.traderfeed.blogspot.com.Â
He is currently writing a book on the topics of trader development and the
enhancement of trader performance.